LIVING WITH THE WIFE AND LANDLADY

If you live in your wify's house, this is for you. First of all on behalf of all Papas permit me to say 'be strong and hold on.' I say this because in societies such as ours, like here in good old Nigeria, where the Man is expected to be the all in all in the family, living under a roof built by your wife, is seen as a misnomer and you will most certainly be the the topic of gossips and the favourite item that jokes will be made of in your community.
No one wants to know why a Man will accept to live in his wife's house. We all know that today work is increasingly hard to come by and more often than not the women get employed faster than the Men especially in the blue and white collar job market. The wife could also inherit land and property from her old Man. Today, there are one hundred and one reasons why you will find a full grown Man living in his wife's house.
Ordinarily, who owns what should not elicit controversy especially when the union is based on true love. Sounds good right? Except the fact that some times a happy marriage may not survive only on the foundation of 'true love'. Other variables come to play especially in the eyes of the extended family which can upstage the strongest of relationship based on 'love'.
'Who pays the bills' for instance, could determine how the world out side will perceive the hierarchy in your home. Our society believes rightly or wrongly, that power lies in the hands of the individual with the money. Even the domestic staff in the home owned by the Madame will pledge their allegiance not to you the man of the house but on the one that pays their salaries and therefore determines their livelihood. So get ready to be scorned even if its in secret because they know you, (like them) can be fired and kicked out of the house.
Alright let's look at it from another perspective, some women can be so insecure in relationships and we all know that, that is the corner stone of a highly suspicious lady. If you are unlucky to be in a relationship where your other half as they say is always in need of reassurance, and the house is hers? I tell you many men will rather walk on hot coal and sleep in a bed of arrows than endure a second in that kind of scenario.
And then your good old friends. How will they take it? What will they say? What if she thinks your best Pal someone you practically grew up with is a bad influence on you and she tells you, no, orders you, is more like it, not to wellcome him in the house. What will you do? Would you risk disobeying your landlady?
Living in your wife's house from the above mentioned scenarios is certainly not something for the faint hearted. My advice is if you are sure you are not brave enough to take the barrage of insults and derision from all and sundry including your friends. Then go for the less grandiose option of renting or building your own house, and cultivate the humility of sleeping under your own roof in a house that your kids will look up to you and no one else.